"We must be silent before we can
listen. We must listen before we can learn. We must learn before we can
prepare. We must prepare before we can serve. We must serve before we can
lead." ― William Arthur Ward
Leadership is a widely talked subject
internationally. It gives lots of energy, enthusiasm and inspiration to many
readers. However, it is highly challenging to practice it. Anybody can talk about leadership from
outside but to get into leadership role and walk the talk is easier said than
done.
It is essential to build Indian youth
as leaders as our nation needs leaders to ensure better quality of living, and
to take the future generations forward. There is an urgent need to build soft
leaders in youth rather than ordinary leaders as India being a peace loving
country that created great global leaders including Mahatma Gandhi who
pioneered peace with an emphasis on truth and non-violence.
What
is Soft Leadership?
Leadership basically depends on three aspects
― how you communicate with others; how you make decisions; and how you take action.
When you can execute these three activities effectively you become a successful
leader. However, to evolve as a soft leader, you must communicate with an
emphasis on soft skills; make decisions by blending your head, heart and gut;
and take action keeping the ground realities and goals in your view without
compromising people-orientation. There are 11 Cs that constitute soft
leadership. They are: character, charisma, conscience, conviction, courage,
communication, compassion, commitment, consistency, consideration and
contribution. It is highly challenging for people to cultivate these 11
characteristics. However, if people possess more than 6 traits they get into
the fold of soft leadership.
How
to Excel as a Soft Leader?
When you want to excel as a soft
leader there must not be ‘character gap’, ‘communication gap’, ‘commitment gap’
and ‘courage gap’. When you stick to these four sutras you can excel as a soft
leader. ‘Treat the people the way you want to be treated’ is the old adage. But
as a soft leader, you must treat all people with respect especially the people
who are lower to you in rank and file. The soft leaders possess humility and a
servant attitude. In Jim Collins’
parlance, they are a paradoxical blend of personal humility and professional
will. They help their people grow beyond what people dream of growing. That is
the hallmark of soft leadership.
Gen
Y and Success
The Gen Y is highly ambitious but
impatient. They are hard working, not smart working. In rare cases, they are
smart working, not wise working. They want to touch the heights of success
without emphasis on ethics and integrity. They must acquire the right means to
achieve their success. Since Gen Y is in a hurry, they may tend to make more
mistakes apart from compromising integrity and ethics. They must learn that
short-cut will cut them short forever. If they want to stand in the race to
stand out as soft leaders they must emphasize on ethics. Although it might take
a little longer time, it is worth achieving success with integrity and ethics. It
is a fact that people often look at negative things in leaders rather than the
positive things. As a leader you are always under the scanner. Hence, you must
walk your talk properly with an eye on your ends with an emphasis on ethics, values
and morals.
Be
a Giver, not a Taker
According to Adam Grant, author of Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to
Success, there are three types of people in the world - Givers, Takers and
Matchers. Takers contribute less and expect more from others. In contrast,
givers contribute with a great heart without expecting anything from others.
Matchers fall in the middle of the road who believes in proportional returns
for their contribution. They hover in between givers and takers. Givers think
of what is that I can do for others,
takers think of what is in it for me
and matchers think of what is to barter
and mutually beneficial to us. Soft leaders are givers, hard leaders are
takers and smart leaders are matchers.
Takers are plenty who are at the
bottom of the pyramid, matchers are at the middle of the pyramid and givers are
at the top of the pyramid who is very few in number. They are the people who
make a difference to the world. Soft leaders belong to the top of the pyramid.
They don’t mind who takes credit for their efforts and achievements. They are
altruist with people-orientation a blend of personal humility and professional will.
Their pockets may be empty but their hearts are rich. We need such kind of
leaders who can walk their talk to contribute their best to make a difference
to the world.
Here is the difference between takers
and givers: Takers are often found to be selfish people while givers are often
found to be selfless people. Takers are often whiners while givers are winners.
Takers often blame the circumstances while givers look for opportunities to
work with what they have to contribute. In the present world, takers are more
but givers are less. That is why we have more followers and less leaders. And
leaders are givers. There is thrill in giving rather than taking from others.
Everyone knows that we don’t take away wealth when we depart from this world.
We leave this world either with good reputation or with bad reputation
depending on our contribution. Remember, leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, Martin
Luther King Jr, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela stand out from others because
they were givers. They sacrificed their lives for the welfare of others. That
is why they are still remembered today. Do you like to be remembered like them?
If so, you must adopt soft leadership where you respect all people with your
personality, attitude and behavior and make others truly special.
Build
Soft Leaders Globally
Presently people appreciate
partnership rather than traditional command-and-control leadership. They
believe in the concept of ‘give respect and take respect’. There is a drastic change in the mindset of
the people globally due to the rapid changes in the technologies. It is
essential to explore soft leadership rather the traditional leadership styles
which got outdated. Hence, build soft leaders in Indian youth who can emphasize
on soft skills rather than hard skills; people-orientation rather than
task-orientation; transformational leadership rather than transactional
leadership; others-centered leadership rather than self-centered leadership;
‘what is that I can do for others’ rather than ‘what is in it for me’ to bring
smiles and make a difference in the lives of others. Remember, the words of
Winston Churchill, “We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we
give."
Note: This article has been adapted from my upcoming book titled, “Soft
Leadership: An Innovative Leadership Style to Resolve Conflicts Amicably
through Soft Skills and Negotiation Skills to Achieve Global Stability, Peace
and Prosperity” Here is the link to free chapter: https://lnkd.in/bNDJ7uA
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