Dear friends,
I am excited to share with
you that I authored a book on soft skills which can be used for both academic
and reference purposes. It is tentatively titled, “Soft Skills: Breaking
Barriers and Building Bridges.” Here are the details about the book with a free
chapter. I would appreciate if you could share your thoughts about this book on
social media channels including Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Google+.
About The Book
“You can make more friends in
two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two
years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another
way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.” — Dale Carnegie
This book strives to achieve
sanctimonious status to the soft skills discipline. It explores soft skills in
global organizations and educational institutions. It emphasizes the
significance of soft skills and explains the methods to acquire soft
skills. It differentiates between soft
and hard skills. It enlightens that a judicious blend of hard and soft skills
is essential to achieve professional and leadership success. It crafts course
curriculum for soft skills. It unveils the list of soft skills essential for
leaders. It explores tools and techniques to measure soft skills. It coins an
innovative evaluation tool―Meka’s Five-Level Model to measure soft skills
training. It implores to build hard skills but mind soft skills. It calls for
appreciating others to make a difference.
It is a universal book to improve your attitude, personality and
behavior to achieve all-round success.
This book can be used for
academic and reference purposes. It is a short course on soft skills to achieve
your career and leadership success. You can easily toss the book into a
briefcase or purse and read here and there as time allows. It is a quick
reference guide for educators, executives, leaners and leaders to achieve
personal and professional success.
“With realization of one's
own potential and self-confidence in one's ability, one can build a better
world.” — Dalai Lama
Most people talk about
building confidence but they are not aware of the right tools and techniques to
build confidence. In fact, confidence is the first step to achieve peace,
happiness and success. Confidence is essential in every aspect of life
throughout the day and every moment. Hence, we will discuss confidence;
differentiate between confidence and overconfidence; and explore tools and
techniques to build confidence.
Confidence
versus Overconfidence
Confidence should not be
confused with overconfidence. Confidence means when you think that you can
execute the tasks effectively whereas overconfidence means when you think that
you can alone execute the tasks
effectively. Confident people are aware of their limitations while
overconfident people ignore them. In my personal life, I made many decisions
hastily resulting in lots of failures. I was overconfident and felt that things
would fall into place automatically and would achieve the desired outcomes. But
I failed miserably in many instances. The only solace is that I learned lessons
from each failure and evolved as an educator and executive coach. My failures
served as inspiring stories during my leadership training programs and coaching
sessions. It is obvious that things will fall into place automatically reflects
overconfidence. On the other hand, if people take risk factor into account and
act with firmness and calmness, it reflects confidence. Currently I started
making decisions slowly and cautiously because of my previous failures and the
success rate is relatively higher now. Therefore, people must analyze,
understand themselves and learn from their failures to excel as a confident
person.
Tips
to Build Your Confidence
It is easy to excel as a
confident person, if you understand the tools and techniques. Here are some
tools and techniques to build your confidence.
- Believe in yourself.
Unless you believe in yourself the world doesn’t believe in you.
- Journal your feelings, emotions,
egos and observations regularly. Analyze them.
- Overcome your
apprehensions and superstitions.
- Silence your inner
critic.
- Maintain positive attitude.
- Surround with positive
people.
- Praise others graciously
and liberally.
- Dress well with comfortable
clothes and shoes.
- Exercise regularly to
energize your body.
- Maintain positive body
language.
- Remain calm under uncertainty
and stress.
- Love yourself. Unless
you love yourself, you cannot love others.
- Set your goals in such a
way that you feel uncomfortable to share with your friends and relatives
about them.
- Don’t compare with
others. You are a unique gift to the world. Nobody can be like you.
- Don’t focus too much on
your weaknesses. Instead, focus on your strengths but guard from your
weaknesses.
- Stretch yourself by
coming out of your comfort zone.
- Execute tasks with
thorough preparation without any fear.
- Anticipate distractions
and failures.
- Don’t worry excessively
about your mistakes. Mistakes are the learning lessons. Remember, everyone
makes mistakes and nobody can grow without making mistakes.
- Develop an attitude to
understand the circumstances which are beyond your control.
- Take feedback to
identify your successes and especially failures.
- Emphasize excellence,
not perfection because perfection wastes a lot of your precious time,
money and energy.
Visualize that you are
successful. Entertain positive thoughts and downplay your negative thoughts. Remember
that nobody is perfect in this world. Identify your inborn talents to leverage
them. Build skills around them. Shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset.
Learn from failures. Consult experts and seek their guidance. Don’t hesitate to
learn from others irrespective of rank and position. Everyone is good at
something. Identify, develop, and leverage them. Acquire and share your
knowledge with others. Be creative to stand out from others. Be altruistic to
make a difference in the lives of others.
Conclusion
We are born with certain
gifts to change this world. Hence, nurture your nature. Identify what kind of
seed in you, explore and exploit it completely.
Life is full of challenges.
It throws both opportunities and threats. Don’t be overjoyed by opportunities
and get upset by threats. Take challenges in your stride to build your
confidence.
There is a thin line
separating confidence and overconfidence. Understand the difference and raise
your bar constantly by emphasizing excellence. Remember that overconfidence
kills your opportunities. Hence, believe in yourself and be confident to
achieve an amazing success in all aspects of your life.
Note: Here is the link to purchase
my bestselling book ‘Soft Skills: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Overcome Workplace
Challenges to Excel as a Leader URL: https://www.amazon.com/Soft-Skills-Overcome-Workplace-Challenges/dp/1628653035
Life is great!
Professor
M.S.Rao
Founder of MSR Leadership
Consultants India
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