Sunday, 26 July 2015

“Why People Remember Negative Events More Than Positive Ones?” ―Professor M.S.Rao

“We can bring positive energy into our daily lives by smiling more, talking to strangers in line, replacing handshakes with hugs, and calling our friends just to tell them we love them.” ―Brandon Jenner

Recently my son talked about a negative experience he had with one of my relatives. I asked him the reason for remembering the negative experience when the same relative did so many good things to him since childhood. He had no clue.  I told him that we must not remember negative events; forgive the individuals who harmed us; and forget negative events forever. Life is very short and we must know how to make it sweet. There is no room for ill-will and hatred against others. We must have a big heart to forgive people and forget negative events to provide meaning to our lives.

I found many people often talking about their bad experiences rather than good experiences. I thought to blog on it by doing some research so that it helps people look at the positive aspects in others ignoring the negative ones.

There are some people who broke their precious relations due to silly reasons. We find married couple getting divorced due to their ego clashes, miscommunication, and negative experiences. Why don’t they look at the positive aspects of an individual? Every Individual has both strengths and weaknesses. Why should we focus on negative aspects of a personality? Why shouldn’t we focus on the positive aspects of a personality?

Human mind captures negative aspects quicker than the positive ones. When we view films, lots of violence and sex is shown, and people absorb such things faster than the positive ones. Hence, film makers and script writers bombard with negativity to reach out to audiences quickly.  It is not easy to erase negative events quickly as research shows that for every one negative comment, you’ll need to ensure three to five positive comments.

No person is entirely good and bad. Every person has both good and bad qualities. We must look at the positive side of an individual to build relations. We must strive to build bridges, not barriers. We can build a better world with love, peace and harmony; when we see positive aspects in others. Remember, we are united by similarity, separated by differences.

There are several conflicts globally in the name of region, religion, caste, creed, ethnicity, and language because people see the negative aspects in others than the positive ones. There must be change in the mindset and attitude of the people to build a better world. We must look at the door that is opened, not the closed one. We must look at the rising sun, not the setting sun to create a world which is full of hope and optimism.

“When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That's when you can get more creative in solving problems.” ―Stephen Covey

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